"Marriage is about love and divorce is about…

“Marriage is about love and divorce is about money” is a popular saying among family lawyers and divorce planners. “If marriage is about love, then divorce is about money” was cited in print in 1986. It’s not known who originated the saying.

14 December 1986, Richmond (VA) Times-Dispatch, “Divorce,” pg. F1, col. 1:
If marriage is about love, then divorce is about money.

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Newsweek
Volume 136, Issue 1
Pg. 297:
The Spoils of Marriage
Divorce is as miserable as ever, but noncomplicated. Warring couples put stock options, pensions and even frequeprflier rhiles on the table.
BY LINDA STERN
MARRIAGE IS ABOUT LOVE divorce is about money.

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Resurrecting Mingus:
A Novel
By Jenoyne Adams
New York, NY: Free Press
2001
Pg. 99:
The lawyer said something to me that stuck in my head: marriage is about love; divorce is about money.

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8 July 2002, Spartanburg (SC) Herald-Journal, “Gordon can blame a woman” by Mike Bianchi (Orlando Sentinel), pg. B2, col. 6:
Somebody wise once said that marriage is about love; divorce is about money.

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28 July 2002, Sunday Free Lance-Star (Fredericksburg, VA), “Make a breakup add up: Certified divorce palnners enruse fairer deal” by Jim MacKinnon (Knight Ridder Newspapers), pg. D6, col. 5:
“Marriage is about love. Divorce is about money,” said Ruth Samuels, a certified financial planner in Brunswick, Ohio, who took specialized courses to become a certified divorce planner.

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Family Law
By William Statsky
Clifton Park, NY: Delmar
2011
Pg. 294:
It is sometimes said that marriage is about love and divorce is about money.

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7 Fights All Couples Inevitably Have And How To Resolve Them
By Brittany Wong
Posted: 09/08/2014 11:46 am EDT Updated: 09/08/2014 12:59 pm EDT
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“Marriage is about love, divorce is about money,” the old saying goes. The road to divorce, however, often begins with knock-down-drag-out fights over financial issues. (A recent Money Magazine survey showed that married couples fight over money more than anything else.)