"Expectations are premeditated resentments"

“Expectations are premeditated resentments” is a saying of unknown authorship. “If the old saying that ‘expectations are premeditated resentments’ is true, then our expectations are always putting us in an untenable position” was cited in the book Meditations for People Who Worry (1996) by Anne Wilson Schaef.

“Expectations are premeditated resentments.—Saying from Alcoholics Anonymous program” was cited in a 2006 book. The saying has been popular in 12-step recovery programs.

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Meditations for People Who Worry
Edited by Anne Wilson Schaef
New York, NY: Ballantine Books
1996
Pg. 22:
If the old saying that “expectations are premeditated resentments” is true, then our expectations are always putting us in an untenable position.

30 April 1998, The Capital (Annapolis, MD), “Psychology” by Tom Muha, pg. C1, col. 1:
Poorly communicated expectations are merely premeditated resentments.

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Expectations are premeditated resentments.

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Bringing God Home:
A Spiritual Guidebook for the Journey of Your Life
By Forrest Church
New York, NY: St. Martins Press
2003
Pg. 113:
Expectation is premeditated resentment.

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Expectation is premeditated resentment.

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High Performing Investment Teams:
How to Achieve Best Practices of Top Firms
By Jim Ware and Jim Dethmer with Jamie Ziegler and Fran Skinner
Hoboken, NJ: John Wiley & Sons, Inc.
2006
Pg. ?:
Expectations are premeditated resentments.
—Saying from Alcoholics Anonymous program

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Investment Management:
Meeting the Noble Challenges of Funding Pensions, Deficits, and Growth
Edited by Wayne H. Wagner and Ralph A. Rieves
Hoboken, NJ: John Wiley & Sons, Inc.
2009
Pg. 375:
“I should get a raise. I should get a bonus. I should get stock options.’’ Entitlement is all about expectations. As one pundit said, ‘‘Expectations are premeditated resentments.’‘

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Dave Corbett
‏@davecor
@adangross Or as the old Jewish proverb states it; “Unrealistic expectations are premeditated resentments”
11:24 AM - 14 Feb 2009

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Wine, Women & Words, Volume 2
By Sara M. Junfin Castle
Lulu.com
2012
Pg. 441:
“Expectations are premeditated resentments.”— M. Scott Peck

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Dr. Monikah Ogando
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Expectations are premeditated resentments. - Hamilton Lynum
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7:19 AM - 19 Nov 2014

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Ed Stephens III
‏@IamEdTheThird
“EXPECTATIONS are premeditated RESENTMENTS” Dr. Robert Creech
11:15 AM - 3 Jun 2015